8 Signs That a Guy is Really Interested in You

So you’re interested in a guy but unclear if the feeling is mutual? The dilemma is not knowing the signals that guys give off when he’s interested. Some guys will send mixed messages so it does create some doubt. But in this post, you’ll learn the 8 signs men let women know there’s mutual interest.

With these 8 signs, you’ll be able to confidently enjoy the process of getting to know each other, not questioning whether he feels the same.

1. He Approached You

For a guy to even approach a woman who is a complete stranger takes some serious cojones.  Then the ability to make you feel comfortable enough to exchange contact information is a skill in itself. I mean think about it you’re a complete stranger who has all kinds of things going on in your life.

So for him to walk up to you and risk being rejected is pretty commendable. If a guy was willing to take that risk of being rejected, I’d say that’s a pretty good step in the right direction of being interested.

2. He Asks Questions and Actually Listens

Does he ask questions and listen to what you have to say? In the early stages of getting to know someone, especially when there’s genuine interest, guys will listen intently. He will ask plenty of questions in the flow of the conversation to gauge your interest.

This usually stops for three reasons; 1. You’re not asking or answering questions. 2. He’s entertaining someone else or 3. He has other things going on that require his attention.

However, if he is actively listening, it means that he’s limited other distractions and is focusing his attention on you. If he’s constantly distracted and the conversation is short, then I’d say he isn’t really interested in you.

3. He Gives Compliments

Not all men are comfortable giving compliments, but everyone loves getting them and I’m sure you enjoy them too. But if he’s genuinely interested, his compliments will be genuine also and specific to something he finds unique.

Men will give compliments as a way to signal that he likes what he sees or the vibe between you. Giving compliments is a guy’s way to show that he’s paying attention to what he likes about you. But make sure to accept his compliments because no one likes to be wrong about what they like.

Recognizing the time you put into making yourself look good is a good sign that he appreciates your presentation.

4. He Talks About Himself

Believe it or not, this is a sign that he has an interest in you. In the animal kingdom, some species use this method to indicate interest by making themselves bigger. The male Arabian camel inflates his dulaa to indicate interest in a female. Other male species use mating calls and dances to entice the feminine species of their kind.

These are all displays of males making themselves bigger and louder than they normally are to impress a potential mate. So when a guy is talking about himself he’s just trying to pump himself up to get you to take interest. It typically doesn’t work, but for some guys, it’s worth trying.

5. He Uses Humor

Guys will use humor as another way to create a level of comfort and express interest. If he’s actually funny this works very well. Even guys who aren’t funny will try to use humor to show interest. As men, we believe that a woman who laughs is a happy woman and interested.

Humor is the preferred method for most guys to show interest and a way to feel accepted. Corny pick up lines, jokes, and trying to lighten up the mood count too.

6. He Uses Suggestive Language

Suggestive language is his way of trying to include you in his future plans. But it’s somewhat harder to pick up on because you have to listen for specific words that reflect his intentions.

Words like; “relationship”, “dating”, “like”,  “feel”, “our” “us” could indicate his subconscious desire to be with you. Pay attention to his choice of words, because they reveal the subtle hints that suggest his interest in being more than just friends.

7. He Calls and Texts Throughout the Day

For a lot of guys taking time out of the day to connect is their way of staying connected and letting you know they are thinking about you is a way of showing interest. I know a lot of women would prefer a call or seeing each other but for a lot of us guys its not personal.

It doesn’t mean that there’s no interest there, but incorporating you in our lives is a process. Now if you don’t hear from him for a few days or a week, he could be waiting to see if you reach out also. We like for you to take some initiative also, it can’t be solely his responsibility to express interest.

8. His Body Language

Mirroring:

is subconsciously mimicking a person’s body language. We all do this to some degree. It’s like yawning (you probably just yawned by reading the word… or want to!) when someone near you does it, it makes you feel the urge to yawn also. But let’s say you’re talking and standing there with your arms folded, he’ll probably fold his arms also to symbolize a connection to how you feel.

Eye Contact:

“The eyes are the windows to the soul” William Shakespeare. Periodic eye contact indicates interest in at least what you have to say. Now, I’m not talking about psycho staring at you, but active eye engagement. If he’s not looking at you at all and not actively listening, he’s probably distracted by something else or isn’t interested.

Posture:

in most cases, this indicates interest or at least being alert. Standing straight as opposed to slouching, which communicates a lack of interest. Standing erect on the other hand shows a sign that you have is attention.

Smiles:

Men constantly smile if he feels like he has your attention. This symbolic gesture conveys a level of happiness or enjoyment. So, give the man a smile back so that your enjoyment is mutually felt.

Close Distance:

Closing the distance gap as I like to call it, is when he tries to enter into your personal space. Is he getting closer as the conversation continues? This is a sure sign he’s interested and is getting comfortable because you’re letting him get closer.

Touch:

Even “accidental” touch is touch. Once he’s closed the gap and created less personal space, the ultimate proof of mutual interest is touch. Why? Because touch is the closest we can get someone physically. Small touches, eventually lead to big touches… at least in our minds.

Head Tilted:

You’ve seen it in movies and music videos when a guy is saying all the things that a woman wants to hear. He’ll tilt his head to the left and talk softly. If his head is tilted to the right, I think it signifies confusion but don’t quote me. But for some reason, when we tilt our head to the left, the right words to just flow out.

Signs that indicate that a guy is interested are very simple to read but the key is to not be so much in your head, stay in the moment and allow yourself to observe his energy towards you.

This is done by paying attention to the little things that subtly suggest interest. I believe these eight signs are a good start in the right direction. If push comes to shove you could always ask him…

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