What Men Want In A Woman
You’re probably wondering what do men want in a woman? The truth is men want different things from a wife than from a girlfriend. To get the ring and a man’s last name you have to understand how men think, there’s a slight difference between the two. Because in the back of his mind he knows it’s easier to break up than it is to get a divorce.
So it’s natural that most men look at marriage as a deeper commitment than just a relationship. Most men will drag their feet when it comes to getting into a relationship. And can also take years until he gets to a point of saying “I should just go ahead and marry her.”
To me, that’s a horrible way to start off a marriage. But what if you could get him to see you as the best possible option by understanding what he really wants? In this post, you’re going to learn what men want in both the getting into a relationship phase and the getting married phase.
What do Men Want In A Relationship?
Men look for a few things in a girlfriend, most importantly it all depends on the phase of life that he’s in. If he recently got out of a relationship and is hesitant to get into another, your main concern should be getting to know him. Meaning you want to become more of a friend that tries to be a girlfriend.
Men can sense when a woman is genuinely just trying to understand versus trying to avoid doing what the previous girlfriend did. So many women focus on wanting to get what a man is looking for that they forget to actually get to know him. He’s a person and has his own life.
The thing you have to realize about relationships is; what we find similar and familiar allows us to become comfortable enough to let our guards down. Sometimes trying to appear so different from a previous relationship that you become unfamiliar. This causes men to withdraw because what you present is someone so different it becomes foreign.
People are afraid of unknowns and will find a way to avoid doing something new. Instead, you have to look for what’s similar to his previous experiences and slowly show him that what he gets with you is not only similar but an upgraded version of what he’s experienced in the past.
Everyone loves an upgrade! This is why most people get an iPhone or Android and never switch. Changing from one device to another is foreign and seems too complicated. But offering an upgrade on what people already have makes them feel like they’re getting something better than before.
The key is to genuinely understand what he’s accustomed to attracting and what type of women he usually gets into a relationship with. This will tell you where you stand and if you’re going to end up wasting your time. People rarely change what they’re attracted to, especially men!
Once you understand why he’s attracted to certain women you’ll have a better understanding of why he’s hesitant to get into a relationship with you.
Why Men DON’T Get Into Relationships
The main reason besides a woman being so different from what he’s used to is he just doesn’t want to get into a relationship at this moment. It doesn’t mean he’s been hurt or is afraid. He could just want to enjoy being a single man. You shouldn’t take this to mean you’re not a good woman.
When I was single I met plenty of good women, but I just didn’t want to be in a relationship when they did. I made sure that I let them know though. However, some of them didn’t understand that concept and thought it meant they weren’t good enough. My decision had nothing to do with them.
Some men could actually see you as a good partner but not be at a place where they’re willing to commit to a relationship. Even if you try to use sex as the bait for getting into a relationship, he would actually be in it with you. He’ll say you’re together and be doing whatever he wants behind your back.
The best thing I try to tell women is you need to know what he thinks the ideal relationship is and if it came right now, would he get into it? The answer to that question will reveal a lot about him and where he is at this moment of his life.
What do Men want In A Wife?
So let’s say you’re already a girlfriend but want to become his wife. You’ve already got him to commit to making the relationship exclusive but now you want to make it permanent. By understanding your man’s Secret Love Language you can get him to understand your perspective on why the relationship should move further.
For a lot of men, the idea of marriage sounds too permanent and too much responsibility. Not to mention all of the horror stories me hear about women changing after they get married. This will cause even the most confident man to drag his feet when it comes to marrying you.
Men want to know that things won’t change and you won’t use the fact that you’re married to control him. Again, it’s easier to break up with someone than it is to divorce them. The thing that will make a man marry you is appreciating him in the small things. I know you might be thinking… “That’s it?” Well yes and no.
See as humans we want to feel like what we do and say matters, it’s the little things that we do. Not the big things specifically. It makes us feel welcomed and creates good energy towards the person who’s showing us we matter. My wife and I appreciate the little things that we do for our relationship.
We reward the behavior we recognize the other person did. For example; when she or I do the dishes, we say “thank you for doing the dishes” or “thank you for paying the power bill.” It’s a small gesture but it goes a long way in feeling appreciated in our marriage.
It basically says to him that “I see you and value what you do for us.” Trust me, if you start doing this in your relationship he will begin to look at you as a wife. He will be willing to permanently commit to a woman that sees who he really is. This is what separates wives from women who stay girlfriends.
Conclusion
You’ve heard so many people say “men are simple all they want is food, sex, and silence” or whatever else they come up with. If men being simple is true it would be easy for women to know exactly what to do to get a man to commit. The truth is men are very complex creatures and probably even more than women.
In The Secret Love Language of Men course, I explain the difference between how men and women communicate and why men have a hard time opening up and expressing themselves. This is important because it really sheds light on what it takes to get inside of the mind of a man.
Once you know how to tap into emotions hidden within your man it will be easy to know exactly what he wants even as he goes into different phases of his life.
Men want different things based on the current phase of their lives. Hopefully, you want your relationship to last… Enroll in The Secret Love Language of Men course today and start connecting with your man on a deeper level. He will look at you as the ONLY woman he can’t live without.
